tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-47138727523767689632024-03-13T05:40:58.089-07:00Dr. Duly's BlogDr. Duly - Dr. Nina L. Dulabaumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03179542001122965466noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713872752376768963.post-76181364703301527122012-02-17T17:32:00.000-08:002012-02-17T18:18:07.909-08:00Go Red for Women Challenge 2012It might seem sort of strange or unbelievable to some people that those experiencing serious symptoms might just be unaware. However, if you have been with your dearest loved one, who thinks s/he is just having a lil' bout of indigestion, and the next thing you know the person is being carted off into an ambulance, wheeled into the emergency room and squeezed into the schedule for emergency open heart surgery, believe me, you never forget the experience. Later, when others joke about, "oh my, I just about had a heart attack," you have flashbacks.<br /><br />I have passed out information at work on the perils of perpetual sitting and inactivity; I offer people "heart healthy cookies and cake" and snacks on my birthday. I have shared my story with a select few, who expressed a little concern about their health. I am sure some are amused when they witness me huffing and puffing after climbing the 7 flights of stairs, gasping for breath as I nearly stumble into my office. Though recently I have to admit, I have gotten a bit lazy and have not been doing this every morning - or even every other morning {- maybe once or twice a week?!}.<br /><br />According to statistics from the American Heart Association, 90% of all women have one or more risk factors for developing heart disease and more women die of heart disease than all forms of cancer combined. For women, heart disease is the silent killer - many are unaware that they may be at risk or they are experiencing serious symptoms.<br /><a href="http://www.goredforwomen.org/"><br />Check this out.</a><br /><br />Once I get over this flu bug, I vow to eat more of those fruits and veggies and walk up and down those stairs once again! :-)<br /><a href="http://ahabetteruprovena.wordpress.com/?p=639&preview=true"><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">I am going red and I am taking up the challenge! </span><br /></a> <span style="font-weight:bold;"><br />Dr. Duly<span style="font-style:italic;"></span></span>Dr. Duly - Dr. Nina L. Dulabaumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03179542001122965466noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713872752376768963.post-64924375421131902322010-07-18T10:43:00.000-07:002010-07-18T14:11:26.483-07:00Did you know the following? <br /><br />"Fact #1: 17.6 % of women in the United States have survived a completed or attempted rape. Of these, <span style="font-weight:bold;">21.6% were younger than age 12 when they were first raped</span>, .... (Full Report of the Prevalence, Incidence, and Consequences of Violence Against Women, Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey, November, 2000). . . . <br /><br />Fact #8: <span style="font-weight:bold;">Every two minutes, somewhere in America, someone is sexually assaulted. </span>(Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) calculation based on 2000 National Crime Victimization Survey. Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department of Justice)<br /><br />Fact #9: <span style="font-weight:bold;">One out of every six American women have been the victims of an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime.</span> (Prevalence, Incidence and Consequences of Violence Against Women Survey, National Institute of Justice and Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 1998)<br /><br />Fact #10: Factoring in unreported rapes, about 5% - one out of twenty - of rapists will ever spend a day in jail. <span style="font-weight:bold;">19 out of 20 will walk free. </span>(Probability statistics based on US Department of Justice Statistics)<br /><br />Fact #11: Fewer than half (48%) of all rapes and sexual assaults are reported to the police (DOJ 2001). . . . <br /><br />Fact #14: According to the National Crime Victimization Survey, more than 260,000 rapes or sexual assaults occurred in 2000; 246,180 of them occurred among females and 14,770, among males (Department of Justice 2001). . . . <br /><br />Fact #16: More than half of all rapes of women occur before age 18; <span style="font-weight:bold;">22% occur before age 12.</span> (Full Report of the Prevalance, Incidence, and Consequences of Violence Against Women, Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey, November, 2000). . . . <br /><br />Fact #18: About 81% of rape victims are white; 18% are black; 1% are of other races. (Violence Against Women, Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Dept. of Justice, 1994.)" Posted at <a href="http://www.feminist.com/antiviolence/facts.html">http://www.feminist.com/antiviolence/facts.html</a><br /><br />I assume that these statistics make at least some of us really uncomfortable - this is the reality. Burying our heads in the sand will not make them disappear. Hence, witnessing the level of violence I hear and read about via the media and word of mouth, I made inquiries into programs here in the Chicagoland area for girls. <br /><br />Having led workshops on "Civil Courage" - "<span style="font-style:italic;">Zivilcourage</span>" - and challenging "everyday" violence in Germany, I was searching for those involved in this area here. In this process I met some great people, one of whom offers such "Self-Defense" training courses for girls. I organized an event in collaboration with the Taylor Family Branch YMCA and Lorie Hermesdorf, police officer at ECC and national certified trainer with<a href="http://www.rad-systems.com/"> R.A.D. Systems.</a> All parents were welcome as well as Officer Lorie covered critical issues for girls aged 6 - 12 in an age-appropriate manner during this first session:<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Who is a stranger?</span><br /><br />What does a stranger look like?<br /><br />If you need help who do you call?<br /><br />How to give a description of a person?<br /><br />Do you know your home address?<br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Maintaining safe distances</span><br /><br />Defense stance and verbal skills<br /><br />Use of toy telephone to call 911 and practice giving descriptions<br /><br />Clothes grab technique with contact to sensitive areas to get loose (stomp top of foot or pinch soft underside of arm near armpit)<br /><br />Running to safety of trusted adult.<br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">In two hours, the girls learned a lot. It was a great success! </span><br /><br /><span style="font-style:italic;">Why not organize such an event in your community?</span>Dr. Duly - Dr. Nina L. Dulabaumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03179542001122965466noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713872752376768963.post-44027390844134202892010-06-05T06:17:00.000-07:002010-06-05T06:30:05.383-07:00Save our Shelter<span style="font-weight:bold;">Save our Shelter<span style="font-style:italic;"></span></span> was the theme of flash-mob events around the country yesterday - June 4, 2010. I wonder how many people realize just how many individuals need such social services? <a href="http://www.dailyherald.com/story/?id=385800&src=1">Shelters provide lifelines</a> to many individuals who have urgent and existential needs.<br /><a href="http://www.rainn.org/get-information/statistics/frequency-of-sexual-assault"><br />Every two minutes someone is sexually assaulted in the United States.</a> Domestic violence has been named "an epidemic" in our country - yet there is the belief among some that we should not be wasting our money. I can think of quite a few other things that are truly "wasting" our national resources - and money - at the moment. <br /><span style="font-style:italic;">Dr Duly</span>Dr. Duly - Dr. Nina L. Dulabaumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03179542001122965466noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713872752376768963.post-85466605746384531542010-02-21T13:03:00.000-08:002010-02-21T13:22:30.801-08:00The personal is politicalAmidst a college session on student retention and success, one participant brought up the phrase, "the personal is political" in explaining her viewpoint on treating students from various cultural and ethnic backgrounds with respect. <br /><br />I found this quite interesting. Even more interesting was the fact that no one mentioned that this phrase has been used quite frequently in another context - the context of gender. In fact, when I searched, I found that there is even a website with this title.<br /><br />In 2010 I ask myself and I ask you, besides student retention and success, what significance might "the personal is political" have today?<br />Dr DulyDr. Duly - Dr. Nina L. Dulabaumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03179542001122965466noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713872752376768963.post-20718339589011669632009-11-11T06:13:00.000-08:002009-11-11T06:38:40.877-08:00Good and BadA few emails responding to the "FALL OF THE WALL" have highlighted the reality that such an incredible and joyful event could be - and was - also followed by pain, injustice, great frustration, despair .... <br /><br />Current events have also sparked anew the debate on what and who is "good" and "bad," "right" and "wrong" - or "good" and "evil." <br /><br />I was reminded of the ancient Cherokee story retold by Michael Neill in his book, <span style="font-style:italic;">Feel Happy Now!</span>; it offers some great insight.<br /><br />A tribal elder is teaching his grandson about life, (I quote):<br /><br /><span style="font-style:italic;">"A fight is going on inside me," he [the Grandpa and tribal elder] said to the boy. <br /><br />"It's a terrible fight between two wolves.<br /><br />"One is evil - he is angry, envy, sorry, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, deception, false pride, superiority, and ego.<br /><br />"The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.<br /><br />"The same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other person, too."<br /><br />The boy thought about it for a minute, and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"<br /><br />The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed." </span>(pp. 153 - 154)<br /><br />Dr DulyDr. Duly - Dr. Nina L. Dulabaumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03179542001122965466noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713872752376768963.post-9229210240647187512009-11-09T06:02:00.000-08:002009-11-09T09:09:49.030-08:0020 Years Ago Today20 YEARS AGO THE BERLIN WALL FELL -- ICH WAR DABEI! I was there :-)! <br /><br />After hearing the rumors circulating ... I hopped on the U-Bahn at the Free University - where I was studying after serving as a volunteer in a community project in Berlin(West) - and rushed to Checkpoint Charlie. <br /><br />There I saw the unfathomable right before my very own eyes!<br /><br />Trabis, roses, Sekt (German Champagne), joyful shouts, tears and a grand celebration!<br /><br />Around an hour later I rushed home to call and wake up my brother (4 am or so) in Illinois and persuade him to write a story with me and go down to the local newspaper and tell them THAT INCREDIBLE HISTORY - and NEWS - IS BEING MADE - RIGHT NOW and they have a direct link to all the action ;-)!<br /><br />It challenged people's frames of mind, politics, international strategies .... as well as everyday life for me as a student and later as an author, a consultant, professor and even as a mother. <br /><br />Since I had coordinated a program visiting families and communities in the East in the mid/late 1980s, I knew many families who were divided and folks who were restless; some shared their dreams of visiting me some day "on the other side." Indeed, one young girl I met in Zwickau with her family became our babysitter in Leipzig, Germany some 10 years after the Wall fell! <br /><br />Now when I fly back to Germany to teach seminars on the art of dealing with conflicts -- many of my students do not remember ... have no clue ... were not born. <br /><br />However, the excitement, the unfathomable, the historic and historical significance of that day live on within me! :-)<br /><br /><a href="http://www.germany.info/Vertretung/usa/en/__PR/GIC/2009/11/04__November__9__PM.html"><br />Take a look to find out what is happening in Berlin!</a><br /><br /><span style="font-style:italic;">Dr Duly</span>Dr. Duly - Dr. Nina L. Dulabaumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03179542001122965466noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713872752376768963.post-16785961776023896382009-09-12T08:08:00.000-07:002009-09-12T08:30:44.193-07:00A Time to THINK HARD - not to hardly thinkI think it is time that every U.S. American give serious thought about the state of our health care system - whether or not s/he voted for Obama. Place the partisan warfare aside and just think about this issue. I for one, find it appalling that <span style="font-weight:bold;">millions</span> in our country are not insured. This "mere fact" is touching many more lives than most people realize.<br /><span style="font-style:italic;"><br />Seriously, how can this be good for any of us? </span> <br /><br />Some children are not getting the care they need - which will affect future generations. If they are losing their parents and loved ones, this is affecting families and upcoming generations as well. <span style="font-style:italic;">Just ethically and morally, how can a nation who prides itself in "liberty and justice for all" <span style="font-weight:bold;">NOT</span> be concerned about the welfare of all citizens?</span><br /><br />It can happen to anyone here, because health insurance is most often available through full-time employment, when employment is lost or is only part-time or undocumented, <span style="font-style:italic;">there is no coverage.</span><br /><br /><a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2009/09/10/us/politics/10obama.text.html?adxnnl=1&adxnnlx=1252768044-My2D2XQwSt6OiBqTILsPUg">Please read these words with an open and critical mind. What do YOU think? What can be done?!</a><br />Dr DulyDr. Duly - Dr. Nina L. Dulabaumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03179542001122965466noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713872752376768963.post-67074668142315063842009-09-11T03:03:00.000-07:002009-09-11T05:59:58.780-07:00Pain, Hope & RenewalIt appears that we all experience different types of pain at some point or points in our life. It is indeed "universal." Sometimes short-lived, sometimes chronic, sometimes absolutely devastating, sometimes just a bit of a nuisance, sometimes "in between" - sometimes vacillating back and forth.<br /><br />I have been giving the phenomenon of physical pain a bit more thought recently, following an injury and empathizing with a close loved-one dealing with chronic pain. I have been quite surprised at what I have discovered in my everyday life. When I dare to confide how I am <span style="font-style:italic;">(REALLY feeling)</span> in response to, "So how's it going?" or "Good morning, how are you doing?" or I tell someone how my loved one is <span style="font-style:italic;">REALLY doing.</span> <span style="font-style:italic;">I more often than not hear similar anecdotes from others.</span> I am simply amazed at how many people around me on a day-to-day basis are experiencing similar physical discomfort and pain. <br /><br />One way pain can be transformed is through the sharing of survival stories -- communicating the impact with others, sharing the steps one took to survive, sharing the struggle and the outcome(s) . . . and inspiring others to begin the journey with their pain instead of being victimized by it. (Much easier said than done when you are in the throes of tremendous pain! I submit, I think it can take much time and effort to reach that "inspiring others" stage!)<br /><br />As I signed on this early morning (unable to sleep because ...), this photo and article gripped me. <br /><a href="http://www.lemondrop.com/2009/09/11/37-years-later-girl-in-vietnam-war-photo-spreads-hope/"><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Pain and agony on a whole different dimension - not only physical but encompassing so much more - emotional, cognitive, spiritual ...</span> -- <span style="font-weight:bold;">NEVER</span> can mine be compared to the pain this little girl/woman has endured. <span style="font-weight:bold;">A photo that imprinted its image onto and into my brain <span style="font-style:italic;">forever</span> at an early age.</a></span><br /><br />Kim notes that it is this pain that humbles her and serves as a daily reminder, to cherish her life and share her story with others. <span style="font-style:italic;"><span style="font-style:italic;"><span style="font-weight:bold;">Such a wise and compassionate survivor!</span></span> <br /> <br /><span style="font-style:italic;">After years and years of horrible, traumatic pain, Kim sends us a message of hope and renewal, challenging us to <span style="font-style:italic;">move on</span>.</span></span> <span style="font-style:italic;"><span style="font-weight:bold;">Are we "listening</span>"?</span><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">THANK YOU KIM!<span style="font-style:italic;"></span></span><br />Dr. DulyDr. Duly - Dr. Nina L. Dulabaumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03179542001122965466noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713872752376768963.post-12479243569306508552009-08-27T13:38:00.000-07:002009-09-12T08:03:51.786-07:00"I want an A"With the new semester upon us, once again I have heard omitted from a few students' vocal chords: <span style="font-style:italic;">"I want an A." <span style="font-weight:bold;"></span></span><br /><br />Over the years I have heard this quite frequently; I have also had the pleasant experience of being threatened once or twice by students who believed that it was their right to tell their instructor the grade they will earn before ever submitting an assignment. <br /><br />To all students out there: I hope you all CAN EARN AN A if this is your goal and you are willing to dedicate time and effort to reach this! TIP: You may need to check your own attitude and realize that earning an A is like achieving something of significance anywhere anytime -- it takes perseverance, hard work, hours, knowledge and dedication.<br /><br />I hope it is not the case, but for those who want good grades dissociated with any effort or achievement: if earning an A would become as easy as chewing gum, then an A would have little meaning anymore.<br /><br />A little over 3 week after I wrote this, an article was published in the Chicago Tribune concerning behavioral patterns in higher ed. I found this interesting -- <a href="http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/chi-college-rude-studentssep06,0,6074607.story">take a look.</a><br />Dr DulyDr. Duly - Dr. Nina L. Dulabaumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03179542001122965466noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713872752376768963.post-49272914696581367842009-08-12T02:41:00.000-07:002009-08-12T03:04:23.199-07:00A Tribute - Words to Ponder"You Are My Life"<br /><br />"Once all alone<br />I was lost in a world of strangers<br />No one to trust<br />On my own, I was lonely<br />You suddenly appeared<br />It was cloudy before but now it's clear<br />You took away the fear<br />You brought me back to life.<br /><br />"You are the sun<br />You make me shine<br />Or more like the stars <br />That twinkle at night<br />You are the moon <br />That glows in my heart<br />You're my daytime my nighttime<br />My world<br />You're my life<br /><br />"Now I wake up everyday<br />With this smile upon my face<br />No more tears, mo more pain<br />'Cause you love me<br />You help me understand<br />That love is the answer to all that I am<br />And I'm a better man<br />You taught me by sharing your life<br /><br />"You gave me strength<br />When I wasn't strong<br />You gave me hope when all hope is lost<br />You opened my eyes when I couldn't see<br />Love was always here waiting for me."<br /><br />- <span style="font-weight:bold;">Michael Jackson, Babyface, Carole Bayer Sager and John McClain</span> From the 2001 Album, <span style="font-style:italic;">Invincible</span>Dr. Duly - Dr. Nina L. Dulabaumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03179542001122965466noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713872752376768963.post-89802256726368041322009-06-23T22:54:00.000-07:002009-06-24T09:41:37.004-07:00Have a word?A few days ago while lifting weights at the Y, to my surprise, an older gentleman my husband and I have seen in passing many a time walked over to me, inquiring, "Do you have a word for me?" <br /><br />Huffing and puffing with my 70 pound weights, I replied, "Excuse me?" not understanding what he meant.<br /><br />"I mean, <span style="font-weight:bold;">do you have a word</span>, you know, with a special meaning or like a word or words of wisdom?" <br /><br />I observed him carefully that split second assessing whether this was a joke - or not. <br /><br />(Little did he know I used to pull this one all the time as a grad student at the university - I'd sneak up to slap a buddy's back and in a loud jovial British accent remark: "Hey - don't you have some wisdom for me today?!" But here I was 20+ years later in about the same basic scenario - only reverse - I'm being asked!)<br /><br />My gosh, he's <span style="font-style:italic;">really</span> serious I thought. He is standing - waiting - in front of me and though we have never had a conversation and I have no idea what his name is, he is waiting for a word or even a group of words - from <span style="font-style:italic;">me</span>! Sweat was dripping down my face, back and arms and I must not have been the prettiest sight to behold. However, I was not alone - all of us were working out hard.<br /><br />I paused, let the weights go, wiped my forehead and looked him directly in the eyes, stating emphatically,"<span style="font-style:italic;"><span style="font-weight:bold;">Cherish every moment.</span>"</span><br /><br />"Hm, wow, that, that is a good one - <span style="font-style:italic;">Cherish every moment</span>." he replied nodding his head as he began to walk towards the door diagonally across from where I was planted on a shoulder-press machine. <br /><br />"Yeah, even THIS one, and have a great day!" I yelled after him.<br /><br />He smiled and walked out of the gym. Still a bit perplexed, I finished lifting my 40,000 plus; pleased that I could offer him a few words to contemplate and chuckling to myself, I exited as well.<br /><br />Isn't it these short impromptu conversations or spontaneous exchanges that liven a dull day and add sunshine, colors, textures and tone to seemingly predictable patterns of our existence day in and day out?<br /><br />Aren't they fun to remember when after grading 30+ papers you just can't sleep?!<br /><span style="font-style:italic;"><br />Another moment to cherish! </span>:-)<br /><br />On second thought, is each and every moment in life <span style="font-weight:bold;"><span style="font-style:italic;">cherishable</span><span style="font-weight:bold;"><span style="font-style:italic;"></span></span></span> - <span style="font-style:italic;">REALLY</span>?! <br /><br />Auf Wiederlesen!Dr. Duly - Dr. Nina L. Dulabaumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03179542001122965466noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713872752376768963.post-75678353111943976812009-05-30T12:47:00.000-07:002009-05-31T14:14:26.934-07:00<span style="font-weight:bold;">WELCOME! </span><br /><span style="font-style:italic;"><br />I am just getting started in the world of blogging! After seeing many former students graduate this year, it has taken me back down memory lane . . . . <br /><br />TO ALL OF YOU 2009 GRADUATES - I WISH YOU THE VERY BEST! <br /><br />Remember: CARITAS ET VERITAS ------- SCIENTIA EST POTENTIA<br /><br />If you do not remember anything else I ever said, please remember: <br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">KEEP ON LEARNING FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE - ENJOY and SHARE your knowledge with others you meet along the way! Contribute and make our planet a better place! </span> :-)</span><br /><span style="font-style:italic;"><br /><br />SIT VIS VOBISCUM<br /><br />Dr. Duly</span><br />Dr. Nina L. DulabaumDr. Duly - Dr. Nina L. Dulabaumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03179542001122965466noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713872752376768963.post-63087422871995705922009-05-20T12:10:00.000-07:002009-05-20T12:14:04.793-07:00FSI 2009<a href="http://fsi2009campustour.blogspot.com"><span style="font-weight:bold;">Check out our group blog from FSI 2009 </a><span style="font-weight:bold;"></span></span>Dr. Duly - Dr. Nina L. Dulabaumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03179542001122965466noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713872752376768963.post-26785539551049639752009-04-29T12:14:00.000-07:002009-09-12T08:06:00.864-07:005th Auflage/Edition to be published soon!The 5th edition of my best-selling handbook on mediation and the art of dealing with conflicts successfully will be out soon in Germany! Stay tuned for more about this edition.Dr. Duly - Dr. Nina L. Dulabaumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03179542001122965466noreply@blogger.com0